Sunday, 4 October 2026

GOD’S CHILDREN: A BLESSING OR A BURDEN?

At Avot 3:18 Rabbi Akiva burrows into three verses from Tanach in order to prove how dear are humans—and especially Jewish humans—to God. The mishnah runs as follows:

חָבִיב אָדָם שֶׁנִּבְרָא בְּצֶֽלֶם, חִבָּה יְתֵרָה נוֹדַֽעַת לוֹ שֶׁנִּבְרָא בְּצֶֽלֶם, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: כִּי בְּצֶֽלֶם אֱלֹהִים עָשָׂה אֶת הָאָדָם.

 חֲבִיבִין יִשְׂרָאֵל שֶׁנִּקְרְאוּ בָנִים לַמָּקוֹם, חִבָּה יְתֵרָה נוֹדַֽעַת לָהֶם שֶׁנִּקְרְאוּ בָנִים לַמָּקוֹם, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: בָּנִים אַתֶּם לַייָ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם.

חֲבִיבִין יִשְׂרָאֵל שֶׁנִּתַּן לָהֶם כְּלִי חֶמְדָּה, חִבָּה יְתֵרָה נוֹדַֽעַת לָהֶם שֶׁנִּתַּן לָהֶם כְּלִי חֶמְדָּה, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: כִּי לֶֽקַח טוֹב נָתַֽתִּי לָכֶם, תּוֹרָתִי אַל תַּעֲזֹֽבוּ

Beloved is man, for he was created in [God’s] image; with even greater love it was made known to him that he was created in [God’s] image, as it says, "For in the image of God He made man" (Bereishit 9:6).

Beloved are Israel, for they are called children of God; with even greater love it was made known to them that they are called children of God, as it is stated: "You are children of the Lord your God" (Devarim 14:1).

Beloved are Israel, for they were given a precious article; with even greater love it was made known to them that they were given a precious article, as it is stated: "I have given you a good advice; My Torah, do not forsake it" (Mishlei 4:2).

This is another instance of a mishnah that appears to consist of “take it or leave it” statements with which one may agree or disagree but which don’t appear to interfere with our daily lives. As I have written in previous posts, the Bartenura maintains—and no commentator argues with him—that the function of Pirkei Avot is to teach moral precepts and ethical guidance for our own conduct in the course of our lives. That leaves no room for decorative statements that seem to be there for their own sake.

I fond myself thinking about this issue when I began reading an abandoned copy of Rabbi Shalom Noach Berezovsky’s short tract BeChochmah Yivneh Bayit, which turns out to be guidance for young and presumably Chasidic chatanim as they stand at the threshold of married life.  How does one begin to broach this important but delicate subject?

Rabbi Berezovsky opens with words of foundational advice: בָּנִים אַתֶּם לַייָ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם, "You are children of the Lord your God”.  But, while Rabbi Akiva tells us that these words reflect God’s love for us, Rabbi Berezovsky takes them in a different way. Yes, we are God’s children—but being a child implies a duty towards one’s parent, in this case God.

Wha duty is this? The answer is derived from another verse from Proverbs: מוּסַר יְהוָה, בְּנִי אַל-תִּמְאָס  (Mishlei 3:11). Conventionally translated as “My son, do not despise the mussar of God”, these words are taken to be advice given by a father to a son. However, here they are given a Chasidic spin. The speaker is taken to be God Himself and He is speaking to His children, commanding them not to despise His mussar. Since all Jews are God’s children (בָּנִים אַתֶּם לַייָ אֱלֹהֵיכֶם), God is speaking individually to each one of us and He is telling us to respect and pay attention to His moral guidance.

So Rabbi Akiva and Rabbi Berezovsky are pulling this verse in opposite directions. But do they actually disagree with one another? In practice, probably not. Let us return to the first of Rabbi Akiva’s verses: כִּי בְּצֶֽלֶם אֱלֹהִים עָשָׂה אֶת הָאָדָם. It is axiomatic that this verse cannot be taken literally for two obvious reasons. First, so far as we believe and understand, God has no perceptible image and cannot be seen. This means that even if He has an image, we would not know what it is. Secondly human beings are remarkably diverse in their own appearance: they share no “image”. This had led our sages to conclude that “image” here refers to qualities that God possesses and lets us perceive, and which in one form or another we can perceive in ourselves. Just as God is merciful, we can be merciful; just as God is kind, we can be kind, and so on (Shabbat 133b).

Turning to the third verse in Rabbi Avika’s mishnah, the counsel that God has given us and which we are charged not to forsake is not only the written Torah but the web of complex social and behavioural norms that govern our conduct towards others as well as towards God and indeed ourselves.

Putting this all together, we now see two things.

One is that Rabbi Berezovsky’s first advice to the young bridegroom is to be conscious at all times that, though he may feel he is the master of his new home—and indeed of his new wife—he is perpetually bound by his paternal ties to his Creator, who expects him to act with dignity, propriety, kindness and loyalty, as befits a prince, the son of the King.

The other is that Rabbi Akiva’s verses are there to be internalized and acted upon. Because God loves His human creations, He has given them the means to emulate Him. These means are encapsulated in the Torah He has given them, and since they are His children, they are fully accountable to Him.

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