The concept of being satisfied with one’s portion in life is deeply ingrained in Pirkei Avot. At Avot 4:1 Ben Zoma teaches:
אֵיזֶהוּ
עָשִׁיר, הַשָּׂמֵֽחַ בְּחֶלְקוֹ, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: יְגִֽיעַ כַּפֶּֽיךָ כִּי תֹאכֵל,
אַשְׁרֶֽיךָ וְטוֹב לָךְ, אַשְׁרֶֽיךָ בָּעוֹלָם הַזֶּה, וְטוֹב לָךְ לָעוֹלָם
הַבָּא
Who is rich? One who is happy
with his lot. As it states (Tehillim 128:2): "If you eat of the effort of
your hands, you are fortunate and it’s good for you"; "you are fortunate"
in this world, "and it is good for you" in the World to Come.
This sentiment is echoed by a Baraita at Avot 6:4:
כַּךְ הִיא
דַּרְכָּהּ שֶׁל תּוֹרָה: פַּת בְּמֶֽלַח תֹּאכֵל, וּמַֽיִם בִּמְשׂוּרָה
תִּשְׁתֶּה, וְעַל הָאָֽרֶץ תִּישָׁן, וְחַיֵּי צַֽעַר תִּחְיֶה, וּבַתּוֹרָה
אַתָּה עָמֵל, אִם אַתָּה עֽוֹשֶׂה כֵּן, אַשְׁרֶֽיךָ וְטוֹב לָךְ, אַשְׁרֶֽיךָ
בָּעוֹלָם הַזֶּה, וְטוֹב לָךְ לָעוֹלָם הַבָּא
Such is the way of Torah: Bread
with salt you shall eat, water in small measure you shall drink, and upon the
ground you shall sleep; live a life of hardship and toil in Torah. If you do
so, “you are fortunate and it’s good for you"; "you are fortunate"
in this world, "and it is good for you" in the World to Come.
Being contented with one’s lot is highly praised as the
highest form of acceptance of God’s will. Anything less might be viewed as a
criticism of His assessment of what you need or deserve—a point made by Rabbi
Shalom Noach Berezovsky in his Netivot Shalom. But this itself raises
concerns about the danger of complacency, which demotivates a person and causes
us to rest on our laurels rather than seek self-betterment.
An approach towards establishing the parameters of
contentment is found in the Si’ach Tzvi, a commentary on the siddur by
Rabbi Tzvi Hirsch Ferber. There, he refers to our request in the blessing for a
good and prosperous year:
שבְּעֵנוּ
מִטּוּבָהּ
“Satisfy us from your goodness”
There he observes that there are two areas in which one
might be satisfied to the point of contentment: one is in one’s material
aspirations, the other in one’s personal growth in terms of one’s human
qualities.
The truly happy person, Rabbi Ferber concludes, is the one
who is truly at peace of mind with what he or she owns, while nonetheless
striving to grow into a better person. The person we should avoid becoming is
the poor soul who is comfortable with what sort of person he is and has no
concern for his betterment, while simultaneously questing for more money and
everything that goes with it.
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