Speaking stones: one story, three views

The Torah relates how the patriarch Yaakov, in his first night away from home, finds himself alone on a mountain. He takes some stones and places them under his head (Bereshit 28:11); in the morning there is just one stone (ibid., 28:18) and he consecrates it to God. This is the inspiration for a tale that is familiar to most children who attend Jewish schools. An aggadic tale, which Rashi includes in his commentary on the Torah, it is of ancient provenance, being cited in the Babylonian Talmud (Chullin 91b; see also Bereshit Rabbah 68:11). As the Talmud succinctly puts it:

All the stones gathered themselves together into one place and each one said: “Upon me shall this righteous man rest his head”. Thereupon all [the stones], a Tanna taught, were merged into one.

A small child, hearing this tale in class, is likely to accept it as fact.  Yaakov was such a good person that each stone wanted to be the lucky one to have his head rest upon it—and there is nothing strange about stones arguing with one another and shouting “me, me!” since that’s what little children do too.

When that same child becomes a teenager, this tale may be measured against an increased degree of life experience and a hostile, if not cynical, stance towards the uncritical acceptance of teachings. By this view, surely this tale is a complete fabrication. Everybody knows that stones can’t talk, let alone argue; they are the very embodiment of speechlessness. Nor do they have feelings. And how would they have any clue as to who Jacob was anyway? Also, the merger of stones into a single unit would be a most striking and impressive miracle so why, if this event actually happened, would the Torah not spell it out for us instead of waiting for a rabbi to infer it from a small grammatical quirk over a thousand years later?

Later, as the child matures into a thinking and discerning adult, this tale might well be appreciated in quite a different light. Maybe the function of this tale is to describe a greater truth and to teach us something that is not only profound but of value in our own lives today. And perhaps more can be gained by reading some of our traditional wisdom into the Torah than in seeking only to squeeze meaning out of it.  The following explanation is drawn from an explanation by Rabbi Yosef Shalom Eliyashiv:

The stones taken by Jacob were three in number. These stones represented the three pillars upon which, according to Shimon HaTzaddik (Avot 1:2), the world stands: Torah (representing mankind’s means of self-improvement), avodah (serving God) and gemillut chasadim (acts of kindness towards others).  A case can be made for each of these pillars to be the foundational pillar, of greater importance than the others. Indeed, the Tanach supplies the textual ammunition that supports the claim of each of them. But God, by fusing the three into a single stone, teaches that, just as three legs are needed in order to support any chair or table, so too does a combination of Torah, service to God and cultivating good relations within mankind create the condition of stability necessary for society to exist.

This is not just a message for society. According to the Maharal it is a message for the individual too, since each of us is our own little world. We have to get the balance right. Without attending to all three facets of our lives, we are each diminished as individuals.